There have been a few articles in my feed recently highlighting Similac’s campaign to end “Mommy Wars.” Although there have been some valid points made these truths need to be addressed.
1. The Warring really does exist. I am not denying it. I am not talking about a quiet judgment. I am talking about moms going HAM on each other, on social media & beyond! I’ve seen it and experienced it first hand. People I thought were my friends have waged war against me in response to my nursing advocacy. One person in particular was just down right nasty. I hate to say it, but her attack really affected me. I carried those wounds with me for a while. I was in no means being offensive, I was simply bringing awareness to the benefit of breastfeeding in a status update. This person took my advocacy as a personal attack, felt the need to lash out at me, and did it publicly. I am not alone in this. I bet most moms can attest to the outright warring taking place between their peers in Facebook mommy groups. Time and time again I read admins shutting down feeds because of it! This behavior carries on off-screen as well.
2. We can END the war & CONTINUE the conversation. The education & awareness around breastfeeding and breast milk cannot end. The movement for public breastfeeding, scientific backing on its benefit and the awareness surrounding it is so important. Awareness is everything. We cannot stop talking about breastfeeding or fighting for our right to do it #anytime #anywhere. Our society isn’t the most receptive or accepting when it comes to it. Sadly, it’s disgusting to a lot of people. Our efforts to change this perception, bring awareness to its benefits and talking about it, in even the most general sense, must live on! What is most important, regardless of marketing efforts, is that we continue to propel the breastfeeding movement forward. #normalizebreastfeedingforever
Women, like myself, have become privy to information regarding breastfeeding and its benefits. As mothers we all should be able to share information in our circles without being attacked. We are raising kids in the information age. We have access to case studies, scientific research and direct feedback. This is wonderful. Keep it going!
3. Last but not least: We MUST learn to speak to each other correctly! People are naturally inclined to be controversial & could all use a lesson in tact, discernment and grace.
Meet my friends, according to Merriam-Webster:
Tact, the ability to do or say things without offending or upsetting other people.
Discernment, the ability to see and understand people, things, or stituations clearly and intelligently.
Grace, a way of moving that is smooth and attractive and that is not stiff or awkward, a controlled, polite, and pleasant way of behaving, skills that are needed for behaving in a polite way in social situations.
Someone else’s choice or advocacy, if different from your own, is not an offense. It’s just different. If you meet someone with a different, seemingly opposing, view invite tact, discernment and grace into the conversation. We can disagree with someone and even carry on a proper debate without attacking. If the other party can’t play by these rules of engagement, scroll on!
Words of Wisdom:
“It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”